SAVANNAH BOUND pt. 2

Thursday after work we went shopping for a few last minute knick knacks to bring on the trip. After eating a (and getting semi sick) Honeybaked Ham sandwich (which I dunno why I felt nauseous cuz I eat it all the time. It's the best! Maybe it was something else... *shrugs*) we went home to pack. I took a power nap before I started packing my million sets of clothes. I always overpack cuz you never know what could happen. You might end up staying longer or spill something. I'm OCD shut up! But anyhoos, I'm always prepared & will have almost anything anyone asks for in my purse. I have a lighter, band aids, earrings, contact solution, so on & so on. lol. Actor will be like you got this or this babe? And I just pull it out of my purse & he just shakes his head. I would've been a great Girl Scout dammit!

After filling up on gas & getting snacks & etc. we headed on down the yellow brick road. Ha! I always wanted to say that! (don't mind the random outbursts, I'm being slow right now) As soon as we got into town & stepped in the door it started raining. Perfect timing. I'm glad we didn't have to drive in the rain; I just got a new car so don't want my baby to get in any kind of incident or anything.

There were a whole bunch of people in his aunt's house. I guess they had a gathering & people came to check on her & give their condolences. (If you didn't read "Savannah Bound," we're going down there for Actor's uncle's funeral) As soon as we got in & started our greetings/hugs around the room, I heard a high pitched voice say "Akanke!" I looked around the room to see a tiny & beautiful lady reach out for me. "Grandma!" as I ran over to hug her. She's the best if I haven't mentioned before. We talked & hung out for a while then headed to his other aunt's house.

After leaving there we went to Wally World (Walmart for those of you who are impaired) to pick up some beach towels etc... cuz we were going to the beach on Saturday. We then headed to grandma's house to talk for a while & fell asleep on her couches.

The next morning everyone else arrived in town for the funeral. We woke up, got some Mickey D's breakfast & I hopped in the shower before his cousins came & we'd all have to struggle for bathroom time. I've never been to a funeral before. I mean EVER. So I didn't really know what to wear or expect. I figured I'd go all black to be safe: black dress pants, a black laced off-the-shoulder top & some black wedged heels with a bow on it. Actor had on this sharp black button up with French cuffs (if you don't know, better get on it!) and a banging green tie. I somehow had some green earrings in my purse to match his tie. I swear we didn't plan it. haha. Cuz he didn't get his tie till that morning & I'd already pack all of my stuff for the trip. So there!

We headed to the church (I love how old school & simple Savannah is sometimes. They didn't even have paved parking; we parked on dirt & grass.) It was raining so we ran inside the church & of course, greeted everybody. We went in to see his body & that was an experience within itself. I've never been to a funeral before, hence I'd never seen a dead body before. Sure I've seen almost every episode of CSI, but there's nothing like a real body lying right in front of you. With all the make up & whathaveyou that they did to him, he looks older, but at peace.

The ceremony (I guess that's what you call it, I'm not sure) was nice. There were solos, reminiscent speeches, prayers, and etc. We then headed to the cemetery to lay his casket down. Somehow the company said that it was their policy to not lay the body to rest until everyone is back in their car. Basically we couldn't see the casket being lowered so that sucked. Everyone was a little upset & confused as to why we couldn't. She was like "So everyone can make their ways back to their cars now" No one budged. lol. Everyone stood there & started talking to each other & catching up. After about half an hour we all started to scatter & headed back to the church for food.

Actor already warned me that the food would be sorry, and it was, so we decided to gather everyone and go to Golden Corral. I think I ate the whole buffet up, ok half... It was great! Golden Corral is my favorite buffet place, it kicks Ryan's butt. If anyone knows any better place let me know. We're always game to try new eateries. Food is one of my passions nomatter how fat that sounds. haha.

That particular Golden Corral was sorry that day. The steak chef was horrible. He didn't enjoy his job very much; was standing there frowning the whole time & didn't season any of the steaks before he put it on the grill. And THEN he left the grill unattended & came back whenever he felt like it. Ergo, all of the steaks were well well done even though everyone wanted medium-well. The broccoli wasn't fully cooked & still crispy; cheese all runny; didn't have the big popcorn shrimp that Actor always eat. But our company was great. We all talked, laughed, shared stories, and made fun of the food.

We went back to Grandma's house & took a nap. Woke up & went to his aunt's house again to watch movies & play games... etc

to be continued...

DEAR ACTOR pt. 2

"How does it feel to know you never have to be alone?

When you get home

There must be someplace here

that only you and I could go

So I can show you how I

Dream away everyday

Try so hard to disregard

The rhythm of the rain that drops

And coincides with the beating of my heart

I'll never leave you behind

Or treat you unkind

I know you understand"


Love,
Akanke

DEAR ACTOR

Dear Actor,


I got an email saying that your gift is finished being custom made & is arriving shortly. I'm so excited :-D. I hope it looks just like how I saw online. I'm not gonna tell you what it is, but I'll give ya a hint: It's coming from China. You can try to guess what it is all you want to, but everything comes from China so good luck! haha.

Hey, you never know, it could be that Chinese baby I told you about ;-)

I don't know what we're doing for our anniversary yet, but I'm excited about that too. 3 years man. It's been a wonderful ride & I'm ready for years & years to come. We're gonna be one of those couples that still hold hands & be all hugged up on each other when we're 90. Gigady.

I'm also excited for your birthday too. Can't wait to give you your present, and no you can't open it early! I'm not quite sure the plans for that either (or maybe I am but not telling) but I know it's gonna be a great celebration.

I'll see you when I get home k.


Love,
Akanke

SAVANNAH BOUND

We're going to Savannah today. Actor's uncle passed away so the funeral is tomorrow. I don't know him well, but from what I've seen & heard he's a great guy. God bless his soul & let him rest in peace.

We're going to the beach on Saturday. I did like 450+ sit ups yesterday to try & get some of the chunkiness off my stomach so I can look good in my bikini. haha. I don't have a whole bunch of rolls, but since I'm small, any ounce of fat is noticable so I gotta keep it tight. I think it worked a little bit. I'm getting older so it doesn't roll off as fast anymore. If I would've done it for a week my abs would be glistening like they used to.

Pops said that his family might be having a cook out so I'm gonna get to meet Actor's dad's side of the family. I've met almost everyone on his mom's side. I can't wait to see his grandma again. She's the sweetest & nicest person I know besides my mom & grandma. I love that lady. Last time we were down there she came & sat next to me while I was falling asleep & said "You're so pretty. Have a good sleep. I love you" I think I had the most wonderful night's rest after that. I then heard her talking to Actor when he was sleep. She was rubbing his face & just watching him sleep. She said he's so handsome & she loves him & kissed him good night too. The next morning she cooked her famous cheese eggs, grits, & smoked sausage breakfast that I've been hearing about for yearssss. It was the best. She's the greatest.

Savannah is so beautiful & romantic & just plain ol' peaceful. Me & Actor said that would be a place we'd consider residing at when we're older. After all the fame, glamour & success we'd like to live a normal, peaceful life.

We're riding down there in my new car. Whoot whoot! I'm not gonna say what it is since people are crazy & there's alot of haters out there. If you're our homies you should already know... But yea, we're gonna be going lots of places in our new baby. Have a couple destinations in mind already. Whoot whoot!

That's about it for now on Savannah. We'll take lots of pictures & stuff & stuff & I'll write about it soon.

Have a great weekend everybody!

Love,
Akanke

FAT PEOPLE

I have to be at work early in the morning. So I'm driving, weaving in & out of lanes cuz people can't drive & they aggravate me. But anyways, I observe alot. I see so many contradictive things in the world it's crazy. Today I'm gonna concentrate on FAT people. Yes, you read right, FAT people.

Now I am 5'2, probably 95-100 pounds, depending on if I ate before I stepped on the scale. In a nutshell, I'm a little Asian girl. Actor says I have lots of curves & he loves my body, but I still think I'm just a little Asian girl. I'm not anorexic, better yet, I'm far from that. I eat probably 80 times a day; more if I had extra time on my hands. I eat more than Actor does. lol. Ask him, we'll go to Golden Corral & he'll have a plate or two, while I'm taking my time, eating probably 4 or 5 plates. Appetizers, entrees, & desert baby; the whole 9. I love Golden Corral :-D. But yea, I don't go around saying I'm a video chick or I'm so skinny & I love it cuz I'm not fat & all that craziness. I just do me. I am who I am.

What trips me out is how fat people act. And how they be hating on everybody. They hate on skinny people: "Oh she's so skinny she needs to eat more." No fatty, YOU need to eat less. They hate on other fat people: "I don't know why she's wearing that, she's all bulging out. That's nasty." No, YOU'RE nasty, look down at YOUR gut hanging out. lol.

I try not to judge people, I just observe. For instance, what started this whole blog was, in the midst of me weaving in & out of traffic, I look over & see this huge chick, no I mean she had to be like 200+ pounds. Maybe more. She was eating what looks like a triple cheeseburger with everything on it (yes I can tell cuz I'm fat too (Actor calls me that cuz I eat everything in site.)) But yea, she had that, a biggo thing of fries, and a diet coke.

First of all, it's 6:30 in the morning! Oh my GODDDD! Why are you eating that nasty, unhealthy crap anyway, and why are you eating it for breakfast? And the diet Coke. Need I say more? Yea, that'll counter everything else. A diet Coke. LMFAO. And you wanna know why you can't lose weight.

That's the other thing that trips me out about America. They're diet obsessed! I just need to lose 5 more pounds, just 5 more! There's so many pills & programs & surgeries out there. And for what? If you ate right in the first place you wouldn't have to try to lose weight. Yea some people aren't taught what to eat or didn't have the means to eat healthy or whatever the case, but once you know, then do something about it. And by that, I don't mean order the left side of the fast food menu & a diet, no make that two, diet cokes. No. No. No.

I told Actor that I wasn't even raised to exercise. My parents don't exercise, and I'm sure everybody else in my family & probably most of my country don't exercise. Some say that our cuisine is very healthy compared to other countries (defnitely more healthy than what most Americans eat) And we all have great health. And we live longer. Go figure.

I was raised in the American culture so I exercise (well, sometimes ;-)) because I want to be & stay healthy. I don't do it because I want to lose "5 more pounds." I actually wanna gain weight but my metabolism is too damn fast. But yea, back to the subject at hand. Fat people.

I have numerous friends that, one might say, are overweight or even obese. But they carry themselves in a way that exudes beauty. Not trashy & nasty. And fat people usually have beautiful faces, so they play that up & dress very appropriately & sexy without overdoing it. Let's be real, there are some things that fat people shouldn't wear. Yea you can be sexy & all that, big up for you, but don't push it. Don't ever walk out your house wearing a bikini, thong, short skirt, or any other thing that'll show your 8 millions rolls, and your stomach too. That's nasty.

And what trips me out the most is when fat people in denial. That is THE best; it's very entertaining. You know those fat people that swears that they're thick or big-boned? lmfao. Yea. Right. What kind of bone are you made of? Dinosaur? Those people that describe themselves as the sexiest, curviest, and voluptious thing walking? And you see them or their pictures and be like damnnnnn, who were YOU talking about? Thick & voluptious is J.Lo, Tyra Banks, Beyonce, etc. Not old Star Jones & Mo'nique, even though I love them.

Case in point, be real with yourself people! Be proud & confident of who you are & what you look like, but don't be unrealistic. If you're fat, then you're fat. If you're skinny then you're skinny. You're both not thick or video girl material. Let it go. Be yourself. Stop hating on everybody else & work on yourself.

"He shifted his weight from foot to foot, but it was equally uncomfortable on each."
~ Douglas Adams

BLOGGING

I know that I only blog sometimes. I want to blog more, but then I don't. I want to let people know certain things, but for the most part I'm extremely extremely private. I don't wanna put my life or my family/friends' life on blast. I don't see how people do that. Sure I go through & experience things every single day. But if I were to put how I really felt about everything people would cry & crawl in a hole or be really upset & never speak to me again. So... I just continue living life, holding my tongue, only giving advice when asked, or speaking about something when it arises.

Maybe I'm helping them, maybe I'm not. Maybe I'm not helping myself. I really don't care... much. I dunno. People are stupid and they get on my nerves. I think that's all that it basically boils down to. I feel like I tell people the same things over & over again, and they still go out and do the exact thing that I told them not to, and then they come back to me asking advice on "what should I do now?" Well if you would've listened to me in the first place, which I know you never will, then you wouldn't be in this predicament now would you? But you're gonna keep doing it over & over again so stop asking me for advice, and stop putting me in it.

It's so weird because I usually am an optimistic & a pleasant person. I believe that people can change & that everyone deserves a second chance. But sometimes I get tired of people coming to me with the same shit over & over again. It's very tiring & stressful and frankly, I don't really give a rat's ass anymore. I'm trying to help you, but nomatter how much I do or say, at the end of the day it's up to you to make a difference in your life. I can't help someone who can't help themselves. Stop crying & do something about it. Or, if you choose to stay in your self-created destructive hole then leave me out of it.

This isn't for anyone in particular. Just people in general.

I forgot the whole purpose of this rant, but oh well... I guess it wouldn't be a rant any other way huh?